Negative Friends

Are you surrounded by them? Have you ever dealt with negative people before? If you have, you will know that the experience is quite a downer.

In our lives, we often encounter in our circle of influences those that belongs to the so called “negative friends” - often cynical, can't even smile with your ideas instead always finds a way to criticize them badly, too pessimistic most of the times and chooses destructive criticism over constructive. It's hard to have them around right? 

It's not that you don't want to have a long time friendship with them but it's just that if they have nothing to say good to you, it's better not to discuss anything with them. Never talk about anything that you care about to a negative person, they will literally drain your willpower.

When I was starting in the stock market, I was bombarded with criticisms coming from - well, negative people, the painful part is that "they are my long time friends". Few come from new friends but the degree of hurt isn't as deep compared to the old ones.

I made a mistake opening all about the stock market stuff with them. I was clouded by their "hear-say comments" all about stock market - saying that I'll eventually lose, that I'm not into good investment. It's a bit frustrating to receive these words from them considering they are your friends. During one of those moments where these negative people were insisting all about their negative energies, I once posted in my FB wall below statement:

They could have said like these: Good luck into your new venture! Study all about the stock market well (which I am doing). But their negativity somehow broken one of my wings.

Later when I realized and recalled that "Yeah they are people in my life that have nothing good to say about anything but spray cynic words over essential matter to me as if they're experts who have been so successful in their field and in the new field I'm interested into". 

So, I slowly stop talking to them about the idea because they aren't helpful anyway. I didn't even get a fair support. So why stick on sharing with them about my new love - stock market - when I had to suffer bullets of harsh words from them. They don't deserve a spot in my plan. It's not that I don't love or care about them, but I just need to shy away myself because they're not helping anyway - they're destroying a dream that I can build and eventually share with them when I succeeded. 

From that experience, I've realized that it is very important to really stay away from negative people even if they are close to you (long time friends and relatives). Treat them as black hole of happiness. All the positive energy that you get from your dream reminders, role models and supporters will all get sucked out in the moment you talk to negative people - so stay away from them.

Once you stay away from them, all that is left are positive people that fully supports you, encourages you, will do constructive criticism and will even share what they know about the new field you're into. 

So, take glory having the positive people in your life - they will serve as your driver, propeller, engine, supporter and most especially dream reminders. In case you have negative friends in your life, never ever be trapped in a mistake I had because If you do you'll stumble in the same manner I have had. So when you feel that a friend (long time or new) is slowly building a block of negativity over you, slowly drifts away from them. Learn to make some detour. Or else all your positive energy will be sucked out of you. 

Remember these words from Warren Buffet:

Associate with people who are positive, self starters and true achievers. In this manner, you can create success in your life by surrounding with the better people in your life. 

Let me share with you a piece of my success story in the stock market.

I started last February when I went home for vacation with my good friend and my online eledst son Arvin (this name calling came up when he started calling me "Daddy Jay - which obviously spread into my circle of blogger-friends).

Together, we endured sitting to a conference room for almost 3 hours just to listen to the fundamental topics about stock market investing. Eventually, we opened an account with COL FINANCIAL - our online stock broker and viola! - we're ready to buy shares of stocks. But the story does not end to that. I even attended another session - a repeat session actually since I didn't get all that I need to know quickly. 

So when we head back overseas, we religiously get ourselves updated with the things we need to know all about stock market. I do my own research, reading stock market blogs - hopping from one to another, participating in the forum and joining Facebook page that tackles about investing especially for Pinoys who are working abroad, even talking to some of my great friends who are into investing earlier than I was. Good thing, the reader in me made it easy to absorb most of the things that I need to know about the bullish stock market our country has right now.

I am just happy to announce that with my diligence, patience, drive and determination to advance in it, right now I am enjoying a 9.29% gains over my total portfolio. I won't give out numerical details of how big my portfolio is - just leave it to me haha! And it's an awesome experience. I just hope people from my circle of influence would try to do it before entertaining misgivings. It's worth the try. And I would say, try first before you complain or critique.

Surround yourself with the dreamers and doers, the believers and the thinkers. But most of all, surround yourself with those people that see greatness within you even when you don't see it in you that soon. 

And by the way, I have good stories to tell you ahead, I'm keeping it as of the moment since I am still waiting for something. I'll keep you posted soon. 

Disclaimer: 

All photos were taken from the net and so the credit goes to the real owner.