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Thursday, February 3, 2011

Good Thoughts In Life & Commitment

     I wanna share with you some thoughts pertaining to commitment and marriage and life in general. This was series of thoughts after having a great convy with a good friend. Listen folks you might get something good from it.


     Once you decided to commit to someone, overtime, his flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you have to learn to close one eye and not let everything bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationship, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?


     Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy loving and lasting relationship. Seeking status, sex, wealth and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business and daily exchanges ( a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice mail. Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure.

     Allow your mate to have outside interests. You can’t always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don’t try to control one another. Learn each other’s family situation. Respect his parents regardless. Don’t put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain replace the passion.

     Remember, the difference between "united" and "untied" is where you put the "i".

     That’s all folks….those who can read it—it’s nice to know you pause your work and find time reading it. For would-be-readers—-you can learn a lot from these basic facts of life and commitment.

     Until my next blog. Goodnight!


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